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Wednesday, February 2, 2011
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Focus Beyond Success
by Successful life
Many people really anxious when studying for exams such as PMP (Project Management Professional) or CAPM (Certified Associate in Project Management) and their anxiety works against them. The reason that they are particularly worried because of fear of failure. We can say that their belief in the possibility of their failure is stronger that their belief in their success. In order to find a way out of this mess, would help to know a little about how the mind works.
Everyone wants to succeed. Of course it can be said that some people obviously want to fail in life - but it means that they want to succeed in failing. So when they eventually DO fail, they succeeded in achieving the main goal of their lives. And that level of success that few of us achieve.
When aiming for the goal, it is very important to concentrate on the success of your job, not the goal itself. For example, if you are studying for the PMP exam, you must focus on what you want to do after you have your certification, not just on having letters after your name. You must concentrate on the benefits after the goals are reached, because your energy ends where you have your focus (I'll come back to this later).
For example, you are playing football and you have to take penalty kicks. If you concentrate very hard to take the kick, you will become anxious and may kick the ball badly.
The trick is to imagine that you've just scored the winning goal. Imagine people cheering - actually hear them in your mind - and hear them call your name. Imagine how well the success was, and how proud you feel. Imagine the other soccer players who walk up to you and hug you and congratulate you.
If you do this, then you will relax and actually scored the goal.
Because if you really can make you believe that your mind can actually make something happen, then your mind will do all it can to make it happen (this is described by "prospect theory").
So if you say to someone "study hard, and strive to pass the exam," which is a waste of time because they are already doing it, and concentrate on the problem will make them anxious and doubt their ability.
It is far better to get them to focus beyond the end result. Tell them to think about how they will feel good when they pass the PMP exam. And how good it would feel, pinch on a small gold badge.
Tell them to imagine how beautiful and proud they would feel the first day they go back to where they work as a PMP, to give good news to their bosses.
Tell them to imagine that they are being interviewed in the future with a reporter from a major magazine because the magazine wanted to print a feature article on their success. Tell them to imagine how it feels to be so successful in life. Once they believe that, it will begin to happen.
your energy ends where you have your focus
Now, back to this statement. It sounds "new age", but did not. I used to practicing karate for a while. This is a very relaxing sport, which seems very concerned with destroying something. I am trying to break a wooden board, but with no success.
My understanding of "formula" is:
Strength + technique + tough hands = (whatever you like / don 't like) crushed to bits.
I have the strength and the hand is difficult, even I could hit the board again and again without hurting yourself too much, and techniques that seem right.
But then, as a result of some research, I began to really believe that I could break the board.
So now my formula became:
Hand strength + belief + technique + difficult = (whatever you like / don 't like) crushed to bits.
So I focus my energy and mental and physical at one point on the board (and imagine it breaking) then hit it really hard. But I still can not solve it.
Then some time later I met a lovely girl, who has a remarkable talent for destroying things, let me be the secret. He said, "Your problem is that you focus on the board, but that is the ENDS of your energy, because your energy ends where you have your focus. If you want to break a board, you should focus on place 6 inches BEHIND the board."
So once my focus (or goal) is to achieve a place in the back of the board, my energy ended 6 inches behind the board, not on that surface. I want to say that I can destroy the board on my next business. That does not happen, because I still train my mind to accept the new focus. But only a few days later I could destroy it.
And I want to say that she and I developed a relationship smashing, but it should not be, because the focus is behind me.
Everyone wants to succeed. Of course it can be said that some people obviously want to fail in life - but it means that they want to succeed in failing. So when they eventually DO fail, they succeeded in achieving the main goal of their lives. And that level of success that few of us achieve.
When aiming for the goal, it is very important to concentrate on the success of your job, not the goal itself. For example, if you are studying for the PMP exam, you must focus on what you want to do after you have your certification, not just on having letters after your name. You must concentrate on the benefits after the goals are reached, because your energy ends where you have your focus (I'll come back to this later).
For example, you are playing football and you have to take penalty kicks. If you concentrate very hard to take the kick, you will become anxious and may kick the ball badly.
The trick is to imagine that you've just scored the winning goal. Imagine people cheering - actually hear them in your mind - and hear them call your name. Imagine how well the success was, and how proud you feel. Imagine the other soccer players who walk up to you and hug you and congratulate you.
If you do this, then you will relax and actually scored the goal.
Because if you really can make you believe that your mind can actually make something happen, then your mind will do all it can to make it happen (this is described by "prospect theory").
So if you say to someone "study hard, and strive to pass the exam," which is a waste of time because they are already doing it, and concentrate on the problem will make them anxious and doubt their ability.
It is far better to get them to focus beyond the end result. Tell them to think about how they will feel good when they pass the PMP exam. And how good it would feel, pinch on a small gold badge.
Tell them to imagine how beautiful and proud they would feel the first day they go back to where they work as a PMP, to give good news to their bosses.
Tell them to imagine that they are being interviewed in the future with a reporter from a major magazine because the magazine wanted to print a feature article on their success. Tell them to imagine how it feels to be so successful in life. Once they believe that, it will begin to happen.
your energy ends where you have your focus
Now, back to this statement. It sounds "new age", but did not. I used to practicing karate for a while. This is a very relaxing sport, which seems very concerned with destroying something. I am trying to break a wooden board, but with no success.
My understanding of "formula" is:
Strength + technique + tough hands = (whatever you like / don 't like) crushed to bits.
I have the strength and the hand is difficult, even I could hit the board again and again without hurting yourself too much, and techniques that seem right.
But then, as a result of some research, I began to really believe that I could break the board.
So now my formula became:
Hand strength + belief + technique + difficult = (whatever you like / don 't like) crushed to bits.
So I focus my energy and mental and physical at one point on the board (and imagine it breaking) then hit it really hard. But I still can not solve it.
Then some time later I met a lovely girl, who has a remarkable talent for destroying things, let me be the secret. He said, "Your problem is that you focus on the board, but that is the ENDS of your energy, because your energy ends where you have your focus. If you want to break a board, you should focus on place 6 inches BEHIND the board."
So once my focus (or goal) is to achieve a place in the back of the board, my energy ended 6 inches behind the board, not on that surface. I want to say that I can destroy the board on my next business. That does not happen, because I still train my mind to accept the new focus. But only a few days later I could destroy it.
And I want to say that she and I developed a relationship smashing, but it should not be, because the focus is behind me.
